管理好自身，优秀的人生靠自律 【文化释说 • 5.3 • 连载英文有声书】

大家看, 做君王也要有臣子能够告诉他是非曲直, 所以我们交朋友,不一定说要酒肉朋友一大群, 这种朋友, 他害你, 你都不知道, 我们做人, 脑子要清醒一点。就像前面讲过的, 抽烟不好, 抽烟死了那么多的人, 百万以上的人死亡。喝酒也是的, 喝酒一年也要至百万以上的人死亡。

So everyone can see that even lords and emperors need to have officials who can tell them where their faults lie. Therefore, we do not need to have too many friends, especially those who are only there to enjoy feasts and indulge in alcohol with you, for such friends can even bring you harm without you knowing. We need to be of clear mind. Like what we have mentioned previously, smoking is bad and it has caused millions of deaths. So is drinking which causes more than a million deaths annually. 

有位社会名人高晓松, 因为酒驾被抓, 关了半年, 对不对? 本来要做一档叫做《中国达人秀》的节目, 结果节目还没出来,他自己变成 “达人” 了。但是这个人, 我觉得他是位文化人, 有他的素质在, 宣判的时候, 法官问他: “你还要为自己辩护吗?” 他说: “我没有要辩护的,我要向全国人民道歉。”

Was not there a famous person – Gao Xiao-Song - who was caught drunk-driving and was jailed for half a year? He had originally been involved in the production of a TV program known as China’s Got Talent, but was himself made famous before the program was even out. I feel however, that he is a cultured person with certain fine traits because when he was being asked by the presiding judge for his defence, he said, ‘I do not intend to defend myself; I want to apologise to the entire country.’

因为他是名人, 名人应当要起表率作用。结果在这件事上, 他成了反面教材, 酒驾了、犯错了。他说我要向全国人民道歉, 而且酒没有好处, 我从今天起, 只要我活着, 我滴酒不沾, 向全国人民发誓。然后举起一块牌子, 写了四个字:“ 酒令智昏。” 酒能让我们大脑瞬间失去理智, 做出意想不到的傻事来。

As he is a famous personality, he had to assume the responsibility of being a role-model. Instead, with his drunk-driving, he had set a bad example. He had said that he wanted to apologise to every one of his countrymen, that no good would ever come out from alcohol consumption, and that he would make an oath to stay away from alcohol from that day on for as long as he would be living. After that, he displayed a placard with the characters to mean ‘alcohol confuses one’s rationality’ on it. Alcohol lets us lose our rationality in an instant such that we engage in silly acts we never expect ourselves to do.

我们在座的诸位听到高晓松这个故事, 是不是也有所感受? 我们以后要不要戒烟、要不要戒酒? 男子汉大丈夫烟酒都戒不掉,还被烟酒这样的 “监狱” 给关着, 自己的生活快乐不快乐为什么要由烟酒做主呢, 那就真的没出息了。我跟大家说:是个男子汉大丈夫, 是不好的就不要。烟酒不好就不要, 明明写着 “烟酒有害健康”, 你还愣抽, 会有什么出息?

Is every one of you seated here drawing the same conclusion after having heard this story about Gao Xiao-Song? Do we not want to quit smoking and alcohol? Why are you, full-grown men, not able to even quit smoking and alcohol, and be held captive by them instead? Why let your happiness be dependant on smoking and alcohol? That is really being a good-for-nothing. Let me tell you this: you should, as a fully-grown man, abandon that which is unwholesome. You should abandon smoking and alcohol because they are bad. Has it not been displayed that ‘smoking and alcohol cause harm to your body’? Yet, you mindlessly continue to smoke; will you come to any good? 

所以说, 一定要管理好自己, 从一些小事、身边事做起。能把不起眼的小事做好了, 你的自我管理也就比较细致到位了, 进而养成自我管理的习惯, 不断提高自我管理水平。能够管理好自己的人, 也就具备了妥善处理问题的能力, 从而确保自己面临事情不糊涂、不犯错。

That is why we must manage ourselves well, and start from the little things around us. When you are able to perform trivial chores well, you will be more meticulous in your self-management skills; it becomes habitual and the level of your self-management will continue to rise. A person who can manage himself well is equipped with the ability to deal with problems satisfactorily, and he is sure that he will not be led by circumstances into a confused state of mind such that he will engage in wrongful deeds.

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